Ok, I have grown up around dogs. I love dogs. I had three Miniature Schnauzers while my sons grew up, and currently I have a Toy Schnauzer. However, I wanted to post and talk about loving an animal more than a person as another relationship story about a dog coming between two people that profess to love each other came to me this morning. In Divorce Care as well, I’ve heard numerous sad and manipulative situations over a pet dog when couples split or divorce.
Dogs are loyal and don’t talk back, lie, cheat on us, or gossip. They love us, poop, pee, bite, eat, and sleep. However, in the realm of a marriage or relationship, when the one you love is spending more time in the dog house than the dog, there’s a problem. Not a dog problem, a people problem. And…certain problems even Cesar Millan cannot help with.
The holidays are an especially stressful time. I believe Jesus wants to remind us that this life is temporary and it’s His birth and His life and love for us that is most important. It seems that even the smallest issues blow up during the Christmas season. So, if your spouse or significant other is seriously telling you their dog is more important than you, and it’s deteriorating your relationship…that’s a hefty message that needs attention. And for those of you that use pets to control, manipulate, or hurt others that love the pet too…well, that’s just plain cruel, right?
Mind what really matters…love each other as Christ loves you. Merry Christmas!
I put this together for my LinkedIn site and when I found the parrot picture, it spoke volumes to me in several different ways. Words are powerful. Before you say something about someone… think: Is it kind, is it true, is it necessary?
We’ve all played “telephone” at one time or another and the message is never the same at the end as it was at the beginning. 😉
We just never know who is listening or how it will impact who we’re talking to!
Mia culpa! My apologies for being absent! Ever felt like an octopus on a skateboard? Well, that’s how it’s felt these past months…overseeing an elderly dad, one of my best friends dying of cancer, work, meetings, house, lawn, and just plain stuff! I was reminded this morning of the need for God in my life more and more and more.
Ok, back to the movie. Were there moments of laughter? Yes. Moments when a tear ran down my cheek? Yes. Did I feel myself shudder during actual black and white film clips of Hitlerisms? Yes. But what really struck home to me was the powerful, undeniable, life-altering influence of Jojo’s environment. His home, friends, German soldiers,Gestapo individuals, and a room full of posters all had an effect. I tried to imagine what Jojo would do in our world today with television and the internet’s influence. His “world” was actually pretty small in comparable context.
The cast was remarkable, but the message to me clear. Let us step back and think about childhood innocence. These little characters are our future. What are we doing to show them the love of Jesus, to protect them where/when we can from images, words, and actions, and to teach them respect, responsibility, and reverence? Hmmmm?
God bless America and God bless all families, for they are the heart of our country.
It’s EASY! Register online NOW at http://www.mypeacechurch.com under “Events”! If you need childcare, it is free up to and including age 9; however, we have limited space, so registration is important! This is going to be an amazing event! Stepfamily Rx speakers will be on hand for conversations, assistance, and encouragement.
There will be drawings for a free dinner at Johnnies Steakhouse, movies, t-shirts, and more! Any questions, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
This event is sponsored by Peace Church, Thrivent, and Stepfamily Rx. For stepcouples, engaged stepcouples, single parents! Ron Deal of “The Smart Stepfamily” and other national speakers providing GREAT information! Lunch and snacks provided. $20 per person. FREE childcare up to age 9, must register early, limited space. REGISTER NOW ONLINE AT www.mypeacechurch.com under Events!
Oh yes, this year I have the awesome priviledge of helping host an AMAZING day listening to Ron Deal (The Smart Stepfamily) and several other national speakers. There will be Stepfamily Rx speakers available during breaks for Q&A. We will have some fun with drawings for dinner, movie tickets, t-shirts, table fanfare, and more!
YOU WILL NOT WANT TO MISS THIS!
SINGLE PARENTS? – Co-parenting skills will be presented by event speakers to help with communication, cooperation, and compromise. You are not alone!
STEPCOUPLES? – You will be in the company of other folks just like you including some of the event speakers that will offer information on getting through difficult days and how to look forward to and celebrate success.
BECOMING A STEPFAMILY? – This is definitely for you! Knowledge is power. Avoid just planning your wedding day, PREPARE for a stepfamily marriage!
One of the profound paradigm shifts I experienced last week at the Creation Museum and Equipping Families conference was that too easily we follow what we are told, what we see and what we hear. We want to be “in” and “popular”. Rather, God’s Word has an answer for every situation in our lives. God is our authority. Man’s word has resulted in deviation from God’s Word.
In stepliving we might feel we are “different, jaded, odd, dysfunctional, alone, etc.” when again so much of what I’ve lived and am living through exists in the pages of my Bible. (p.s. we are not any of those things different from anybody else!) Forgiveness, patience, endurance, kindness…are all ingredients for life and for stepliving.
The below article from Alistair Begg and Truth for Living is a testimony for us Christians that when things get tough, get unbearable….God is pruning, shaping, or forming us for bigger and better things. I can honestly tell you I am a living example of that!
I am very excited to announce my new title: Girl For God Ministries. This will enable me to broaden my speaking topic capabilities as well as continue on with Stepfamily Rx and other services listed on the header.
Struggling with other names and messages was frustrating until one quiet moment it occurred to me who and Whose I really am….a girl for God. Then it was just a matter of receiving help from a Christian man, Randy Brunette/Creative Visual Marketing, who put together the entire look.
My mission now is to truly serve God by serving others in as many ways as He opens the door to.
I recently had the great priviledge of visiting the Creation Museum that Ken Ham began and the Ark Encounter as well. My soul sang as the truth flowed out from the speakers and the exhibits. No more Hallmark Ark for me or my grandchildren….but that’s another blog!
Until next time…. “Blessed are those whose way is blameless, who walk in the law of the Lord!” Ps 119:1 ESV
Our minds habitually play tricks on us. We ponder, we plan, we expect, and we wait. And then .
Nothing goes as planned, as a matter of fact things seem to go even more topsy-turvy than we could have imagined. And so it goes in many stepfamilies.
Trying harder is NOT the best answer. As a matter of fact, emerging research shows less stress, less problems, when we stepparents assess a situation and lovingly step back. It’s not difficult to tell a step-teen (just an example!), “I feel that I’m annoying you right now, and I understand that people can do that to each other occasionally. I respect your space, let me know if you need anything,”
Please do not construe my words as avoiding, detaching, or isolating. We all need time-outs, privacy, quiet. TIME is your very best friend as a stepparent. What’s the rush….the kids never asked to be born, never chose their parents, and certainly didn’t choose death, divorce, or remarriage. Keep your Bible open, talk to God, you will be ok.