About Dori Pulse

I am a successful life traveller so far in the realm of speaking, sharing, and serving God through serving others. I have been married and divorced and remarried into a stepfamily, which led me to facilitate the Divorce Care program at our church since 2008. I have over 40 years in the business world. I have a Bachelor's degree in Theology and Psychology from Concordia University in St. Paul, MN. My purpose and passion lies within God and people, my two favorite things. I also love words...to write and to speak. Thank you for visiting my site and God bless you! dori:)

Wishy-washy attitudes

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The following post was on my Facebook feed this morning and it struck me:

“Lukewarm people don’t really want to be saved from their sin; they want only to be saved from the penalty of their sin…..Ouch!”    -Frances Chan
The years since my surrender in 1997 have been filled with a ton of ups and downs, but one thing that did not happen was any waffleing about Whose I am. Before my surrender, I was a chameleon that became whatever my circumstances dictated. I was a people pleaser, didn’t want anyone to not like me, and pursued what I thought was living a “good” life.
Now I find myself in a time where it is eternally critical to stand for my moral beliefs in Christ and not waffle, not be a chameleon, not bend toward pursuing people liking me.
Living for Jesus has been the single most amazing experience! I see Him in my life, I have seen the blessings, I have gone through the ups and downs and know it is for my eternal salvation that I suffer or that I shine. I accept my consequences when I make poor choices, but I also find that they are becoming less since my surrender and being committed to making proper choices.
Pausing, praying, purposefully allowing God to choose my path isn’t always easy, and sometimes even a bit scarey…..but it’s always certainly worth it!
Have a wonderful joy-filled day! Blessings……

How’s Your Vision?

happy new year 2020. 2020 with glasses on isolated background     I read a terrific article the other day from John Piper’s site, Desiring God. It spoke about how we begin our day. What are we putting in our heads and hearts first thing? I reflected on this and realized I’d slipped again into a routine that justified my age and stage in life rather than my spiritual, emotional, and ultimately physical well-being.

So, my decision rather than resolution will be to begin each day with my Bible after I watch Joyce Meyers at 6:30 a.m. She is a good teacher and although not perfect, I glean important spiritual points from her and she usually causes me to look up the Scriptures she is speaking on.

An elderly gentleman at church last weekend remarked about 2020 and perfect vision. I hadn’t even thought of it that way because I hadn’t seen any images relating the year 2020 to eyes or eyewear. But once he said that my mind began to swirl and ponder.

I considered my mental vision. I will not look in the rearview mirror as I enter tomorrow, the first day of 2020, I will focus on the windshield….the broad future that lies ahead. God has my steering wheel and I have my will to trust Him to take me where His plans are. I am expecting great things.

Happy Blessed New Year to you all! How are you “looking at” your new year….behind you or what’s ahead?

God Bless America….let’s end the animosity, please. Our vision for America should be solidarity not strife.


Who Loves Ya, Baby?

Dog lover

Ok, I have grown up around dogs. I love dogs. I had three Miniature Schnauzers while my sons grew up, and currently I have a Toy Schnauzer. However, I wanted to post and talk about loving an animal more than a person as another relationship story about a dog coming between two people that profess to love each other came to me this morning. In Divorce Care as well, I’ve heard numerous sad and manipulative situations over a pet dog when couples split or divorce.

Dogs are loyal and don’t talk back, lie, cheat on us, or gossip. They love us, poop, pee, bite, eat, and sleep. However, in the realm of a marriage or relationship, when the one you love is spending more time in the dog house than the dog, there’s a problem. Not a dog problem, a people problem. And…certain problems even Cesar Millan cannot help with.

The holidays are an especially stressful time. I believe Jesus wants to remind us that this life is temporary and it’s His birth and His life and love for us that is most important. It seems that even the smallest issues blow up during the Christmas season. So, if your spouse or significant other is seriously telling you their dog is more important than you, and it’s deteriorating your relationship…that’s a hefty message that needs attention. And for those of you that use pets to control, manipulate, or hurt others that love the pet too…well, that’s just plain cruel, right?

Mind what really matters…love each other as Christ loves you. Merry Christmas!



I put this together for my LinkedIn site and when I found the parrot picture, it spoke volumes to me in several different ways. Words are powerful. Before you say something about someone… think: Is it kind, is it true, is it necessary?

We’ve all played “telephone” at one time or another and the message is never the same at the end as it was at the beginning. 😉

We just never know who is listening or how it will impact who we’re talking to!


Blessings, dori:)

Jojo Rabbit…the power of influence

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Mia culpa! My apologies for being absent! Ever felt like an octopus on a skateboard? Well, that’s how it’s felt these past months…overseeing an elderly dad, one of my best friends dying of cancer, work, meetings, house, lawn, and just plain stuff! I was reminded this morning of the need for God in my life more and more and more.

Ok, back to the movie. Were there moments of laughter? Yes. Moments when a tear ran down my cheek? Yes. Did I feel myself shudder during actual black and white film clips of Hitlerisms? Yes. But what really struck home to me was the powerful, undeniable, life-altering influence of Jojo’s environment. His home, friends, German soldiers,Gestapo individuals, and a room full of posters all had an effect. I tried to imagine what Jojo would do in our world today with television and the internet’s influence.  His “world” was actually pretty small in comparable context.

The cast was remarkable, but the message to me clear. Let us step back and think about childhood innocence. These little characters are our future. What are we doing to show them the love of Jesus, to protect them where/when we can from images, words, and actions, and to teach them respect, responsibility, and reverence? Hmmmm?

God bless America and God bless all families, for they are the heart of our country.

Register Online for Blended & Blessed Livestream!

2019 StepRx BlendedBlessed livestream flyer  It’s EASY!  Register online NOW at http://www.mypeacechurch.com under “Events”! If you need childcare, it is free up to and including age 9; however, we have limited space, so registration is important! This is going to be an amazing event! Stepfamily Rx speakers will be on hand for conversations, assistance, and encouragement.

There will be drawings for a free dinner at Johnnies Steakhouse, movies, t-shirts, and more! Any questions, email me at dori.pls@live.com.

See you there!!  Blessings, dori:)

Register for Blended & Blessed!

2019 StepRx BlendedBlessed livestream flyer

This event is sponsored by Peace Church, Thrivent, and Stepfamily Rx. For stepcouples, engaged stepcouples, single parents! Ron Deal of “The Smart Stepfamily” and other national speakers providing GREAT information! Lunch and snacks provided. $20 per person. FREE childcare up to age 9, must register early, limited space. REGISTER NOW ONLINE AT www.mypeacechurch.com under Events!


2019 StepRx BlendedBlessed livestream flyer

Oh yes, this year I have the awesome priviledge of helping host an AMAZING day listening to Ron Deal (The Smart Stepfamily) and several other national speakers. There will be Stepfamily Rx speakers available during breaks for Q&A. We will have some fun with drawings for dinner, movie tickets, t-shirts, table fanfare, and more!


SINGLE PARENTS? – Co-parenting skills will be presented by event speakers to help with communication, cooperation, and compromise. You are not alone!

STEPCOUPLES? – You will be in the company of other folks just like you including some of the event speakers that will offer information on getting through difficult days and how to look forward to and celebrate success.

BECOMING A STEPFAMILY? – This is definitely for you! Knowledge is power. Avoid just planning your wedding day, PREPARE for a stepfamily marriage!

Register now, limited space for childcare!

Any questions, email me at dori.pls@live.com




My Interview Podcast – Check it out!!

I was recently interviewed for a podcast. Please click on the below link. Thank you, Lord, and Rhonda Noordyk of the Women’s Wellness Financial Center! //html5-player.libsyn.com/embed/episode/id/6883623/height/90/theme/custom/autoplay/no/autonext/no/thumbnail/yes/preload/no/no_addthis/no/direction/backward/render-playlist/no/custom-color/268b86/

Too Many Sheep….

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One of the profound paradigm shifts I experienced last week at the Creation Museum and Equipping Families conference was that too easily we follow what we are told, what we see and what we hear. We want to be “in” and “popular”. Rather, God’s Word has an answer for every situation in our lives. God is our authority. Man’s word has resulted in deviation from God’s Word.

In stepliving we might feel we are “different, jaded, odd, dysfunctional, alone, etc.” when again so much of what I’ve lived and am living through exists in the pages of my Bible. (p.s. we are not any of those things different from anybody else!) Forgiveness, patience, endurance, kindness…are all ingredients for life and for stepliving.

The below article from Alistair Begg and Truth for Living is a testimony for us Christians that when things get tough, get unbearable….God is pruning, shaping, or forming us for bigger and better things. I can honestly tell you I am a living example of that!

Blessings! dori:)