I was recently interviewed for a podcast. Please click on the below link. Thank you, Lord, and Rhonda Noordyk of the Women’s Wellness Financial Center! //html5-player.libsyn.com/embed/episode/id/6883623/height/90/theme/custom/autoplay/no/autonext/no/thumbnail/yes/preload/no/no_addthis/no/direction/backward/render-playlist/no/custom-color/268b86/
One of the profound paradigm shifts I experienced last week at the Creation Museum and Equipping Families conference was that too easily we follow what we are told, what we see and what we hear. We want to be “in” and “popular”. Rather, God’s Word has an answer for every situation in our lives. God is our authority. Man’s word has resulted in deviation from God’s Word.
In stepliving we might feel we are “different, jaded, odd, dysfunctional, alone, etc.” when again so much of what I’ve lived and am living through exists in the pages of my Bible. (p.s. we are not any of those things different from anybody else!) Forgiveness, patience, endurance, kindness…are all ingredients for life and for stepliving.
The below article from Alistair Begg and Truth for Living is a testimony for us Christians that when things get tough, get unbearable….God is pruning, shaping, or forming us for bigger and better things. I can honestly tell you I am a living example of that!
I am very excited to announce my new title: Girl For God Ministries. This will enable me to broaden my speaking topic capabilities as well as continue on with Stepfamily Rx and other services listed on the header.
Struggling with other names and messages was frustrating until one quiet moment it occurred to me who and Whose I really am….a girl for God. Then it was just a matter of receiving help from a Christian man, Randy Brunette/Creative Visual Marketing, who put together the entire look.
My mission now is to truly serve God by serving others in as many ways as He opens the door to.
I recently had the great priviledge of visiting the Creation Museum that Ken Ham began and the Ark Encounter as well. My soul sang as the truth flowed out from the speakers and the exhibits. No more Hallmark Ark for me or my grandchildren….but that’s another blog!
Until next time…. “Blessed are those whose way is blameless, who walk in the law of the Lord!” Ps 119:1 ESV
Our minds habitually play tricks on us. We ponder, we plan, we expect, and we wait. And then .
Nothing goes as planned, as a matter of fact things seem to go even more topsy-turvy than we could have imagined. And so it goes in many stepfamilies.
Trying harder is NOT the best answer. As a matter of fact, emerging research shows less stress, less problems, when we stepparents assess a situation and lovingly step back. It’s not difficult to tell a step-teen (just an example!), “I feel that I’m annoying you right now, and I understand that people can do that to each other occasionally. I respect your space, let me know if you need anything,”
Please do not construe my words as avoiding, detaching, or isolating. We all need time-outs, privacy, quiet. TIME is your very best friend as a stepparent. What’s the rush….the kids never asked to be born, never chose their parents, and certainly didn’t choose death, divorce, or remarriage. Keep your Bible open, talk to God, you will be ok.
Some attendee feedback:
“Exceeded expectations…(knowing) we’re living under same conditions (as others)…I will share my experience!…appreciated hearing about being a child of divorce (from adult speaker)…helped me focus on my faith…loved it all!!…awesome to hear different testimonies…event was awesome…(appreciated) raw examples from (speakers’) lives…would love to hear teens’ perspectives.”
This is what keeps me going when the enemy wants to fill my head with any kind of failure or exhaustion. I see the participant’s eyes and faces, I hear the gratitude in their voice. The room was filled with the Holy Spirit. There was so much prayer on this day! At the end of the day, I asked my high school tech guy what his thoughts were. You know what he said in his first words? “I’d like to hang out in this next year.” WOW!!!!! Even though he is not in a stepfamily, he was impacted by the day, the speakers…and I asked him to pray about perhaps speaking as a teen and especially asking some of his step-living or single parent friends if they would speak next year. Honestly, I was STUNNED that he was so open and intrigued. Thank you Father God, thank you!
(L to R) Pastor Dave, Matt & Erin/7 children between the two, Dori Pulse/Stepfamily Rx, Krista/Sonset Point Ministries, Kim/LPC, and in back, Brandon/Adult child of divorce.
This afternoon I was listening to a Christian speaker on the Hillsong channel and when he spoke the above words as he was preaching the love of Christ in us, words began to flood my mind for a blog.
Why would we think this is not true?
Our best friends are easy…really? We respect them, love, listen, help, encourage, understand, change our schedule to meet theirs, be kind, etc. This doesn’t take effort (work)?? Of course it does.
Courting someone for a relationship we find we work work work and we love it because the chase is often so much fun.
Then comes marriage and before we know it, we left the “work” of the relationship at the altar. Too often we’ve nestled into a groove of apathy, complaining about our spouse, feeling tired, used, bored.
Remarriage and a stepfamily? You say we’ve been married before, we won’t make the same mistakes (No, you’ll make NEW ones, and many of the old ones want to come back!). The kids will get used to it, everybody will get along……Riiiiiiight.
PEOPLE ARE HARD WORK!
Are you a single parent? Stepfamily Rx’s conference has something for you!
Are you a couple contemplating marriage creating a stepfamily? Ooooh, lots for you!
Are you married and in a stepfamily? WOOOOW, even more for you!!
It’s going to be great! Everyone that has attended has left with information, more skills, knowledge, and new friends!
God has blessed this event every year. YAY.
There was a time in my life where I was the the epitome of that little round steel ball, bouncing from one thing to the next. I was wounded, struggling, but pretty sure I had everything under control…..not! Reverand Billy Graham’s passing today prompted tears and a memory of where I believe true change of character in me began.
I had moved to Sacramento, California, in the early 1990’s several years after my first divorce. That is when I became the “pinball”. Not that is was a bad thing or that I was a bad person, but leading the life of a human pinball without the guidance of God is chaos….one thing to the next, to the next. I was trying to chase some kind of peace, stability, and happiness. The second marriage and divorce in the mid 80’s didn’t help matters….but I was trying.
I heard Billy Graham was coming to Sacramento. I believe it was in 1996 that I was made aware. The Holy Spirit put a heavy nudge on my heart one day to call Arco Arena to get a ticket. I ended up sitting in the nose bleed area, but the experience was profound.
My paternal Grandma Slaby listened to Reverend Billy Graham. I used to hear him occasionally as I entered her apartment. Turning the corner into her tiny living room, I’d see Reverand Graham on her black and white television; holding up a Bible, preaching with passion and a loud clear voice to thousands of people. I remember being rivoted to the sound of his voice and then watching as many people would stand up and walk down to the front of his stage to accept Christ. Over the years, I’ve heard him several times and I also read a biography on Reverend Graham. He was so aware of the human condition that when he travelled with men and women as part of the ministry, he insisted they stay on opposite ends of their hotel and that men and women did not go out one-on-one casually while travelling.
He obviously planted in me the seed of character, decency, and a subconscious awareness that I was living dangerously. In early 1997 I surrendered my life to Jesus and have given my heart to Him. I had finally found the deep sacrificial unconditional….agape love I’d been searching for. This testimony is for you, Reverend Graham…..the sun seemed a little dimmer today because you’ve left us and entered the realm of your heavenly home. I’m feeling a tad envious, but that’s ok….I know I have much work left to do here.
Thank you, Lord, for Billy Graham and his passion for Your Word…it sure made a difference in my life. God bless America.
It Began With Green Nail Polish
(Family Video store, Cindy at the counter, Nov 2017)
Where do you get them done?
I go back to my hometown Portage, WI, every two weeks and get them done.
Wow, that is a long way to go!
I pick up my mom, she is almost blind and it gives my dad a break and we go to the nail salon together.
(I am awed…amazed…curious)
How old are you?
They obviously broke the mold when they made you…you are really something!
Well, my parents and grandparents aren’t going to be around forever.
I am proud of you.
I am a mom and gramma too, so I appreciate what you are doing very much.
Well, I hope your family treats you special too.
Oh, now I’m going to cry.
Aw, well have a nice day!
Back to my car…tears on my cheeks!
(I did not know this gal, just read her name tag….but her kind words took me up and beyond for hours!)