Today’s WOW: Self or Servant

Heart n cross   I’ve been involved in reading a book “Soul Keeping” by Pastor John Ortberg, as well as attending a DVD class. It has given me a heightened awareness of self versus servant attitude. I realize that taking care of my self, my soul, my heart, my spirit….is very important. We are no good to anyone else if we are bitter, angry, or negative Nelly all day long. The challenge is to avoid taking care of my self from becoming selfish.

We are born with a God-sized hole because He created us for relationship with Him and with others. We need to seek Him first, then seek to align ourselves in a way that is right and healthy. Boundaries help us stay aligned. I am not perfect, but since I began to focus on developing, maintaining, and using my boundaries, my daily life has become more peaceful and successful. “I get to choose the condition of my soul.” -Pastor Ortberg. One of my prior

My next challenge is to then use my “self” in a less selfish way and attend to others in a more servant way. I love helping others but because I am flesh, I have to work at being good at it every day (Yes, some days I may not feel like it). Loving and helping others is fulfilling, and gives me a sense of purpose and dignity. In stepliving, boundaries are essential and so is taking care of self and soul so that one can offer a servant heart to a spouse and children. God first, then self, then others.

“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” – Mark Twain

Gracious Gratitude

This week’s WOW (Wild on Wonder) Wednesday point:

What do you see below?

Black Dot

During my Divorce Care meeting, personal meetings, and stepliving coaching this week, there was a lot of pain, frustration, and disappointment shared. When we are mired down in toxicity, negativity, and just plain agony, it is not easy to think of things to be thankful for.

Gratitude gets buried under a litany of issues such as events, plans, emotions, and busyness. Begin each day waking with a gratitude thought….no matter how difficult our lives are…we do possess beautiful things: Jesus, breath, children, sight, friends…..start the day thanking God. Do not allow Satan to have any priority.


(If you only see the black dot, you are focusing on a “dark” thing instead of all the “bright” around it). Until next time…………..
“Do (and say) the right things in the right way for the right reason.”

Today’s WOW: Honesty is STILL the best policy!

I have a new goal to do a WOW (Wild on Wonder) Wednesday each week. The dictionary defines wonder as including, “marvel, awe, admiration, ponder, meditate, and to be thunderstruck”!

My WOW word for today is honesty. It’s one of the “top ten” from Exodus 20:16 NIV: “You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor.” I interpret that as no false testimony to anyone. Honesty is part of our soul (Mark 8:36), our character and integrity.

I would rather tell the truth, it’s easier to remember! And I would also rather be hurt by the truth than “murdered” by a lie.

Stepfamilies need honesty within family members and co-parenting becomes more civil and trustworthy when parents and stepparents make a commitment to be honest and open. Children need to be coached and disciplined why honesty will enhance their adult lives and relationships.


“Do (and say) the right things in the right way for the right reason.”