Just today on the local news another young 20 something boyfriend, living in a hotel room with his girlfriend and her 2-year old son, hurt the young boy badly. The girlfriend returned to the hotel and a locked room. When she finally entered, her son had red bruises and bite marks on his head, face, arms…. Stories like this have a physical effect to my heart…it feels heavy, hurts, I feel sick. I cannot imagine causing such trauma to a child that is unable to protect itself. It is bad enough to mistreat and abuse anyone, but a helpless baby or child is beyond comprehension. Yet, the statistics of a boyfriend hurting or killing the girlfriend’s child/children indicate the frequency of this horrible act. Also, within the last year, a girlfriend overdosed a young 2 year old with cold medicine. It is not just boyfriends…girlfriends can be abusive as well.
My “mom” reaction to this recent incident is to have the person struck and bit like they inflicted on another by someone who is bigger and meaner than them. But that is not the answer, of course. I understand some people have anger issues, are immature, are godless. There are those that have emotional or mental imbalances. I pray for these children that the memory of these episodes will not harm them for the rest of their lives. I pray that mothers get help and get help for their child/children. I pray that they do not simply sweep the incident under the rug…or WORSE go back living with the man after he is released from imprisonment or….ever.
My message today to single mothers, to any mother who is living with a boyfriend or living with any man (including a spouse) that displays ANY sign of verbal, emotional, or physical abuse to get away, move out, steer clear. There is no law that says a woman needs a man, must have a male figure in her child’s life. I thought this at one time, but thankfully, no one abused my children as I waffled my way through some relationships.
I am begging you….. be single, be alone, and protect your child/children. Money is not that crucial that you must put yourself or your children at risk. There are enough associations, churches, shelters, food pantries, and numerous other types of help that can give you support while you get on your feet.
For those of you in a marriage with stepchildren….love them. If you cannot love them, respect, value, and appreciate them. They did not choose the death or divorce of their parent. They did not choose the marriage. God is watching, everyone, all the time, everywhere. Take a breath, step back, go for a walk….if things get escalated and tense. Pray out loud to Christ for help and guidance. We are responsible for our children. Period. They are not responsible for us.
Prayer: Lord Jesus, watch over and protect our little children. I pray that all mommies and daddies embrace the beauty of children and the innocence they possess. Let no one take away a child’s joy and happiness in living. Father God, thank you for Your creation and children. Be with us, in the precious name of Your Son, Jesus. Amen.